30 Days of Kink

How I found out I was kinky and got involved in the com­mu­ni­ty, in 30 bor­ing pieces.

This isn’t a Do Some­thing Kinky Every Day for 30 Days Chal­lenge or any­thing like that. I stum­bled across it on a friend’s blog, The Red­head­ed Slut, who got it from Insa­tiable Desire, who in turn orig­i­nal­ly saw it on QueerKink.

It’s just a list of writ­ing prompts to help explore your kink and rela­tion­ship dynam­ics. I prob­a­bly won’t do these in just 30 days, though. I’m sub­mis­sive, but I can be a brat.

Day 1: Dom, sub, switch?  What parts of BDSM inter­est you?  Give us an inter­est­ing in-depth def­i­n­i­tion of what that means to you. Basi­cal­ly define your kinky self for us.

Day 2: List your kinks.

Day 3: How did you dis­cov­er you were kinky?

Day 4: Any ear­ly expe­ri­ences that, in ret­ro­spect, hint at your kinks?

Day 5: What was your first kinky sex­u­al expe­ri­ence?  If you haven’t had one yet, talk about what you hope to have happen.

Day 6: Describe your weirdest/most inter­est­ing sex­u­al fantasy.

Day 7: What’s your favorite toy?

Day 8: Post a kinky image you find erotic.

Day 9: Post a kink relat­ed song or music video you enjoy.

Day 10: What are your hard limits?

Day 11: What are your views on the ethics of kink?

Day 12: Tell us about a humor­ous BDSM/kink expe­ri­ence you’ve had.  If you haven’t had one, talk about aspects of kink/BDSM you find funny.

Day 13: Explain as best you can what the appeal of kink/BDSM is to you?  Why are you drawn to what you’re drawn to?

Day 14: How would you say real life BDSM/kink varies from fan­ta­sy BDSM/kink?  If you haven’t expe­ri­enced real life BDSM/kink how do you think it might differ?

Day 15: Post a BDSM/kink activ­i­ty you’re curi­ous about and would like to try.

Day 16: What are the most dif­fi­cult aspects of hav­ing a sex­u­al­i­ty that involves kink or BDSM for you personally?

Day 17: What mis­con­cep­tion about kinky peo­ple would you most like to clear up?

Day 18: Any kinky/BDSM pet peeves?  If so, what are they?

Day 19: Any unex­pect­ed ways kink has improved your life?  If so, what are they?

Day 20:  Talk about some­thing with­in kink/bdsm that you’re curi­ous about/don’t understand.

Day 21: Favorite BDSM relat­ed book (fic­tion or non-fiction)

Day 22: What do you think is impor­tant in keep­ing a BDSM rela­tion­ship healthy?  How does it dif­fer from a vanil­la relationship?

Day 23: Since you first devel­oped an inter­est in kink, have your interests/perspectives changed?  How so?

Day 24: What qual­i­ties do you look for in a partner?

Day 25: How open are you about your kinks?

Day 26: What’s your opin­ion on online BDSM play?

Day 27: Do your non-kink inter­ests ever find their way into your kinky activ­i­ties? If so, how?

Day 28: How do you dress for kink/BDSM play?  What sig­nif­i­cance does your attire have to you?

Day 29: Do you have a BDSM title (e.g. mis­tress, mas­ter, slut, pig, whore, princess, god­dess, ma’am, sir)?  What is your opin­ion of the use of titles in general?

Day 30: What­ev­er BDSM/kink relat­ed thing you want to write about.