Thirty Days of Kink: Day 1

Deep Down, I’m Not Very Deep

Day 1: Dom, sub, switch? What parts of BDSM inter­est you? Give us an inter­est­ing in-depth def­i­n­i­tion of what that means to you. Basi­cal­ly define your kinky self for us.

In depth? Deep down I’m not very deep, but here goes:

I’m sub­mis­sive, but only to my spouse and own­er, Lily. I do play with oth­er peo­ple on occa­sion, but I would have to call that sim­ply bottoming.

I do switch on occa­sion, but it’s new and unfa­mil­iar ter­rain for me so I’m tak­ing that slowly.

Some of the oth­er BDSM roles are grouped under sub­mis­sive, and again these are only in the con­text of my rela­tion­ship with Lily: Sub­mis­sive, slave, brat, switch, pet, rope bunny.

I am vast; I con­tain multitudes.

I love bondage more than any oth­er spe­cif­ic BDSM activ­i­ty. Some might call that a fetish, but IIRC, a fetishist is some­one whose sex­u­al desire and/or grat­i­fi­ca­tion is 100% linked to what­ev­er their fetish is.  As I said, though, I do enjoy bondage a great deal, but I’m not depen­dent on bondage for any gratification.

I think the com­mon thread in all these things is the pow­er exchange. It’s the core of every role and activ­i­ty I’ve mentioned.